AUTHENTIC RELATING

Restore natural capacities of belonging, attunement, trust, and autonomy to experience what we all need: nourishing relationships.

A Journey into Belonging, Trust, & Nourishing Connection

Let’s explore our core need to connect and create fulfilling relationships and their essential elements through embodied relating and touch.

Authentic relationships begin when we reveal our authentic self to another person. That means being genuine and vulnerable in our communication and interactions.

Trust opens up naturally when we are harmonious between what we feel inside and consistent with how we act and how we interact with others. To find our authenticity, we practice, play and learn together what are the essential features of relationality.

Understanding our core needs

We are all born with innate needs and the ability to connect. They are both our rights and our pleasure. Without connection, we can neither thrive nor survive.

At a basic level, our physical and emotional well-being and the ability to create healthy relationships are connected to five core capacities we need to develop and learn as children by interacting with our caregivers.

 

  • Belonging and Grounding
  • Attunement & Needs
  • Trust & Interdependence
  • Autonomy & Boundaries
  • Love & Sexuality

Healing the wound of love

Our capacity for connection with both ourselves and others defines our emotional health. When our needs as children are satisfied, we develop these five relational capacities in a balanced way.

Most of us, however, experience some degree of difficulties in one or more areas. As children, we take that as a personal failure when our environment has not responded adequately. We couldn’t comprehend our caregivers making mistakes because our survival depended on them. This is how we develop a wound of love in our bodies and minds. Modern psychology calls this wound “trauma”.

In this series of workshops, we tune with the body and emotions into these delicate parts of us that have not been fulfilled with love and care. Gently and compassionately, we face together those pieces of us. As adults, we see freedom to give each other and ourselves what we were not given as children.

We use touch to love

The body feels loved when its needs are heard, acknowledged, and met. In a child’s experience, love means being touched, held, nurtured, comforted, praised, and reassured. When such pleasurable experiences are not given, the motivation and the desire for life itself—the drive to live— collapse.

Touch is our first language. Long before we can speak or even see or smell, the sense of touch is already there. It creates the first contact with the world, giving us a sense of security and belonging. Touch is essential to develop a healthy body, balanced emotional life, learning, and feeling pleasure. Touch influences how we perceive stress and pain, who we trust, and who we fear. Touch shapes us as humans. Love, vitality, and compassion are conveyed deeper through touch than words.

In this workshop, we explore five capacities of relationships through our bodies and touch. With various practices, we see how the spontaneous movement in all of us is towards connection, health, and aliveness. No matter how isolated or withdrawn we are or how deep the wounds are, we see this impulse of connections on the deepest level.

Self-regulation and co-regulation

We combine essential core elements to make conscious choices in the relational space with other people and build healthy and fulfilling relationships. The touch experiences in the workshops are of a healing and compassionate nature and are not intended towards sensuality.

This journey is inspired by such modalities as Neuroaffective Relational Model NARM, Neuroaffective Touch, Biodynamic Breathwork for Trauma Release, and Compassionate Inquiry. We are, however, not going through therapy. If we experience a deep degree of trauma and dysregulation of the nervous system, we should seek an experienced and compassionate trauma practitioner for our individual support.

Workshops

Belonging & Grounding

12th of February

We get in touch with our bodies and emotions. We feel we have the right to live in this world and belong to others. We explore how we disconnect from our bodies and social engagement as a survival strategy.

Attunement & Needs

19th of March

We feel our needs and emotions and recognise and reach out to them. We take in physical and emotional nourishment as our natural right. We explore how we lose the awareness and expression of personal needs and how instead, we focus on the needs of others.

Trust & Interdependence

21st of May

We allow healthy dependence and independence. We explore how we tend to give up on our authenticity to be who others want us to be.

Autonomy & Boundaries

17th of September

We set appropriate boundaries, say no and set limits. We speak our minds without guilt or fear. We explore how we block authentic expression and respond in a way we think is expected of us not to be abused or abandoned.

Love & Sexuality

19th of November

We live with an open heart and passion. We integrate a loving relationship with vital sexuality. We explore how we tend to cut the connection from our hearts, love and sexuality and how we perfect ourselves to avoid rejection.

Terms of registration

  • You must be 18 years of age or more to register to our events.
  • Registrations to our events are binding.
  • Tickets are transferrable to other eligible participants (If you cannot attend an event from the series you're registered to) as long as the following terms are met:
    1. new participant agree to the terms of the event and they meet all the requirements of the event (e.g. prior attendance).
    2. you inform us of the full name and email address of the particpant.
  • If you cancel up to one month prior to the event, you can be reimbursed 50% of your contribution minus credit card processing fees.
  • If you cancel under one month prior to the event, you can be reimbursed 25% of your contribution minus credit card processing fees.
  • Cancellations within 24 hours of the event, are not entitled to any reimbursement.
  • No shows are not entitled to any reimbursement.
  • If the event is cancelled by the organisers, you will be fully reimbursed. Any further claims are excluded.
  • For cancellations, please contact us as soon as possible.
  • Certain Cloud experiences require previous attendance of one of our events, or to send us a Check-in Message (this is specified on the registration form.) This is so we understand your experience with consent and conscious spaces. Following receiving your message, we will either confirm your attendance or request you join a Conscious Touch & Consent experience first.

Guidelines

  • Be punctual. Arrive at the venue early enough to prepare, change and be ready at the start of the event.
  • Take responsibility for your safety and health. Do only things that are good for you. When you find things exciting, say Yes. It's ok to go outside your comfort zone as long as it feels right. It's also ok to change your mind, even in the middle of something.
  • If a particular activity does not feel right for you, you are welcome to take a mindful observer role. We have a space dedicated for self care where you won't be disturbed. There, you can hold space for others with your presence. If you need further assistance, you can reach out to a host at any time.
  • Say No or take a break if you feel overwhelmed. It's ok to not want something. It's ok to be undecided. It's ok to change your mind. No is never a wrong choice.
  • Give others the freedom to say No and be thankful when you hear it. This is a sign of mutual trust and respect.
  • Respect gender and orientation diversity. If you are unsure how to refer to a person, ask them.
  • Feel into your heart and be compassionate towards others' choices.
  • Please do not consume mind-altering substances before or during our experiences.
  • Come to the experience showered and clean. We will have mints and deodorant available.

The importance of integration

The process in which we revisit, work through and make sense of the insights and content of our experiences  is called integration. We believe in making a sustainable change in our life.

An essential step for this is to find time and space to explore those experiences. We can either integrate by ourself by meditation, journaling, or creating art, or with others, our coach, therapist or close friends and loved ones.

For this, we can join the Integration Space: a container where we can share our insights from our experiences. We usually host an Integration Space event every month. Check our next experiences for more details.

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