Conscious Touch & Consent
Connect with our bodies, explore our boundaries, learn about consent practices, and experience non-sexual & nourishing conscious touch.
Photo by Djamila Grossman
A guided experience to meet ourself & others
Whether new or experienced, there is a quality to allowing ourself to be guided into our body and into connection.
Let us come together in a safe container where we meet ourself before we meet others. We come into our body, hear its wisdom, and allow it to connect us with others. We move slowly, looking inward, noticing what is present. We feel our boundaries and learn to express them to others; we learn to tune in with the boundaries of others. We practice Conscious Touch, which is not only physical, but holistic, from human being to human being. In this embodied state, we come together as a group in a Touch Ritual where we flow freely and consensually with each other.
Our gateway into conscious spaces
In this experience, we learn the tools that help us navigate conscious and body-centered experiences. There is a vast world of such events and communities, many of which can be overwhelming and difficult to navigate. The slowness and guidance in this experience allows us to lean gently into the way of embodied relating without crossing our boundaries. In this safe container, we can notice our patterns, blocks, and the topics we need to pay attention to. With this understanding, we can consciously decide what we want to explore next and how.
Our bodies tell us everything we need to know. Our sense of safety and trust starts in the physical sensations of our body that we identify as emotions. In our consent practice, we listen to our bodies. Do I feel a pull or hesitation? Does an emotion arise? Is it a Hell Yes, or a Maybe (a.k.a. No)? When asked, we pause and look inward before we answer.
Throughout this experience, we are invited to expand our comfort zone, but not our boundaries. We can say Yes with excitement when it feels right, and stand firmly behind our No when it doesn’t. Our Yes, can turn into a No. And though a No can also turn into a Yes, it is never expected nor hoped for. We take a No for just what it is: a gift, an assurance that this being takes care of themself, so we can relax and focus on caring for ourself.
The many qualities of touch
We often reserve intimate touch for our sexual partners. Here, we allow ourself to unlearn the mental wiring that intimacy needs to escalate. We explore the many other qualities of touch without a goal. We connect with various human beings, regardless of gender, and discover how soothing and healing these interactions can be. We learn to engage in touch humanly, respectfully, and with care. We find beauty in noticing the end of an encounter and disengaging from an interaction before moving to another. We allow our vulnerability to be present, and welcome the challenges as invitations for growth.
A non-sexual experience
In this experience, we connect with others in a non-sexual way. We acknowledge that the line between sexual and non-sexual interaction is not always clear; therefore, we provide clear guidelines on the nature of the physical interaction during this experience.
We remain fully clothed during the event. We do not kiss nor interact with sexual zones: genitals or breasts. We respect that the space is not meant for sensual or sexual interactions. We encourage awareness of sensuality and arousal, as they naturally appear in the frame of touch and intimacy, but without actively diving into sexual energy or pursuing the stimulative touch.
On gender balance
In our experiences, we do not limit nor balance the representation of gender among our participants. We allow natural unfolding of the group participants. Every event might have a different gender ratio and different energy ratio (masculine, feminine, and neutral). We embrace all gender identities and body configurations.
For some of us, experiencing physical interaction with one particular gender might come more naturally than with others. We are invited to question our patterns, and approach touch outside the limits we define for ourself.
The importance of integration
The process in which we revisit, work through and make sense of the insights and content of our experiences is called integration. We believe in making a sustainable change in our life.
An essential step for this is to find time and space to explore those experiences. We can either integrate by ourself by meditation, journaling, or creating art, or with others, our coach, therapist or close friends and loved ones.
For this, we can join the Integration Space: a container where we can share our insights from our experiences.